The article contrasts the end-of-life experiences of Grandma Lilly, who suffers in ICU, with Grandpa Joe, who dies peacefully surrounded by loved ones, highlighting the choices in dying.
A woman’s terminal cancer diagnosis leads her to organize farewells with loved ones, ensuring her affairs are in order, resulting in what her family calls a “Good Death.”
The article explores the complexities and contradictions in the concept of a “good death,” questioning the reliance on medication and the preconceived ideals, urging a flexible, adaptive approach to end-of-life care.
In Part 1 of this post, Michele Bograd explores the concept of the “good death,” highlighting the influence of personal beliefs, social privilege, and structural inequalities in shaping end-of-life experiences as an end-of-life doula.
“Look at this book and let’s talk,” I imagine people saying. Or, “Read the story on page (X) and know that’s what I envision for myself.”
Research points to rise in deep grief as more families are left wondering what more could have been done.
“Once you come up with a few items that bring comfort and involve the senses, it becomes easier to construct an individualized plan to share with those who are near and dear to our hearts.”
“If we are trying to design a ‘good death’ we could well cause ourselves more suffering.” — Roshi Joan Halifax
“To be ‘death positive’ doesn’t mean that you are happy about dying.”
“What do you consider critical for your own GOOD DEATH CHECKLIST? What about those in your community of support? What would they want you to add (if you dare)?”