Smart, independent and strong-willed, Lillian blogged openly about her intention to “turn out the lights” in her own time. After it happened, the obituaries did not tell it the way she wanted.
What do dying people do when friends, family, and healthcare providers urge them not to give up, to “keep fighting” to the last, and to try everything possible to cheat death? Sometimes, they assert their absolute right to decide what’s best – and enjoy one last, glorious summer.
Everyone clamors for “a natural death.” It rarely happens. “We have always done everything in our power to wrestle death from the hands of nature,” says someone who knows.
A past experience with his beloved, suffering wife, and a staunch belief to not go down the dementia rabbit-hole, led “Andrew” to join Final Exit Network. Read to find out why.
Despite your best intentions, don’t wait until “five minutes to midnight” to take care of your end-of-life plan.
It’s a pillar of the RTD movement, that we treat our suffering pets more humanely than suffering friends and family members. “Let me die like a dog” has long been a call to compassion. The author went through the agonizing decision to “put down” a beloved canine companion, and he regrets not knowing what “Woody” would have wanted.
On the surface, continued passage of U.S. death-with-dignity laws appears favorable for the RTD cause. But the landscape is littered with potholes, land mines, and detours that raise more questions than the new laws address.
What happens when a devout person of faith – steeped for life in church doctrine that preaches the sanctity of life – must minister to dying patients who choose to exit with aid because state law provides that option?
Every U.S. state has laws against treating animals with cruelty. But only a handful permit Medical Aid in Dying to alleviate human suffering – and only in a small set of very limited circumstances.
What’s wrong with this picture?
As discussed in Part 2, the SPIKES framework is useful to explore the family’s understanding of their loved one’s illness and to share information about medical condition and prognosis. When the purpose of a family meeting is to discuss goals of care, it may be useful to “unpack” care goals using the REMAP framework.